Love is the answer they say and years ago in some of my crisis situations and in the process of processing my life I could have made someone eat those words: because in that stressful crisis going on in me; that was the last thing I wanted to hear: love will solve it.
When love maybe was the reason I was traumatized, abused or hurt in the first place. So how can it now fix it? Well after the crisis and solving of the trauma, hurt and or other issues; love for self does help you.
And like everything else all has a process to go through.
There are seven stages to face:
bargaining: hoping the people involved will change