Fear can cause us to give up on our dreams. You have probably heard these words often enough and know this fact. But how can we get pass this fear that stops us in our tracks? Well there is no short answer for that question, because the answer is in you, and to find the cause of your fears, is your first port of call. The fears of other people or their opinion can also impact us as this can form beliefs that do not ring true for us. Fears of others project on to one another.
The most common scenario can be between parents and their child e.g. if you are afraid of insects and you child see’s your reactions and behaviours affiliated around insects, they will mimic this. Children will act out their parents fears. Energy will dictate this, even if the child is unaware or has no understanding of the situation and the consequences the bear on this.
Where is this fear residing in your body? Is it in your mind, or in your gut, or in your heart? Where is it lying hidden from you?
Sometimes these types of fears rise up in me and I have to face them. My fears usually lie in my gut, so there is an emotional fear holding me back. I have to address the emotional fear.
Fear will cause you to react in a particular way or will limit you in achieving what you are truly capable of achieving. How many of us are playing out our family members and the fears that restrict them.
To discuss the impacts your families fears, I would recommend a free 15 minute consultation to see how I can help you.
Travel can open our minds and hearts and help us to find our true life’s purpose and dreams. Our dreams can be fulfilled when we are not around our familiar surroundings. Those in our surrounding be it, friends, family, and community, can stop us from being truly who we are meant to be.
This happened to me when I left Australia and lived away in another country. I was opened to writing my books which I could never have done here in Australia. Even though I always thought I would love to write a book. An Esoteric Astrologer in Istanbul opened me to my life’s purpose by showing me in my chart where I had to write my life’s journey.
There was a deeper reason for me to share my story with others. It will help the reader to understand that there are many patterns we form from our childhood conditioning’s. At my soul level; somehow my soul knew I had to write and it was my guide, my divine force, to move me towards finding my life’s purpose.
All of us have a life’s purpose. Some of us know it and some of us don’t ever get to know it. Are you free in your own knowledge of what is required of you in this lifetime? Are you open to your life’s purpose or are others in your surrounding holding you back from being what you intended to be this lifetime? To help uncover your life’s purpose, book in a free 15 minute consultation with me.
I didn’t know my life’s purpose, until I left my country and comfort zone!
After writing my books, it took me another 11 years to actually publish them. I came back to Australia and faced those who opposed my dreams. My mission is to help others, to inspire and encourage others. I am to empower others to gather up their inner strength and be themselves.
“Life is to be Experienced”
In my 6 years away from my home country was the happiest time when I was truly myself. I am not suggesting that every one flees their country of origin. Find your place where you feel safe to be yourself and to fulfill your dreams. To read about my journey, see my books here.
Poem:
“Divine Spirit, guide me as I blindly tread on this earth, searching for my life’s purpose that’s staring me in the face. Oh, how blind I was to not see what thou had installed for me. I thank you for the wonders I have seen, the dreads I have dreaded, the poverty, the riches, the sick and the well; you have given me a wide scope of all what life can bestow on a human, for this I am eternally grateful.”
I like to refer to myself as an observer. I can be quiet and just look and listen to my surroundings and take note of the actions of others as I do this. It’s quite interesting to sit and people-watch, and I have learned a lot about people in just watching. In today’s world we are usually locked to our devices and we don’t interact as much.
When I was travelling I was always meeting people and people were opening up to me on their life stories. A stranger in the street would approach me, and I was very open to meeting strangers. These strangers seemed to trust me on a level unbeknown to them. I knew on a soul level we’d arranged this meeting. You may question this, but life is like that: we meet people for specific reasons. They seemed to know I could provide an answer to their questions or their dilemma and I usually did.
This is why I went into life coaching many years later after I returned to Australia; because I’d had so much practice overseas helping strangers through listening and hearing what they were saying, and allowing the questions to come to me so I could transfer the questions to them, so they could get their answers for them to heal themselves.
Poem:
“I am the observer, observing life around me, fated meetings, and sacred words mere coincidences – or was it ordained?”
Discover your inner child. Trauma and grief can sway us away from the important things in life and interfere with our happiness. When we are bogged down with grief, guilt and shame, we are in a self-defeatist mode. This can cause us to dig ourselves into a hole in the ground.
Life and its circumstances dictated how I felt. Daily pressures can mount up and get in the way of our happiness. It was time to make a decision: do I continue, or do I do something about it? Because of outside influences on me, I decided no more flitting in and out of dilemmas which I had been for the past six months. Life had been catching up with me; now that I’m writing and publishing, I’ve put myself in some strenuous situations, and I seemed to be making a mountain out of mole hill. I had to stop this behaviour, and it is a behaviour, and one I know I am capable of playing in.
So what is the root cause of this behaviour?
You know what happens when we stop: the old memories come flooding in and we are forced to reflect to heal. I was creating a dilemma to get through a deep unknown secret in me. I didn’t believe in me. Wow, really? I do believe in me. But the truth be known, I didn’t, and to disguise this inner fraction, I put myself in a dilemma of frazzling myself and others, to blame others for my shortcomings. Aha! This is the issue.
I questioned it, and in questioning it, I had some pretty angry moments, and in the silence all was quietly revealed. The answers I had been looking for came to me. Aha! So this is what it’s all about. In the knowing I accepted what was causing me to act that way. In the recognition there came acceptance, and in the acceptance it dissipated.
You see, I got a taste of my own medicine as a spiritual coach. This is how I help my clients to move through something irritating or blocking them or causing them anger. I had to investigate my own inner child through reflection; to help myself recognise what was the issue and accept the outcome, which was fear to move forward.
Was not believing in myself my way of self-sabotaging myself? It took a bit of work to get a breakthrough.
I was life coaching myself. And so now I and my inner child are in a happier place, and things are pretty good and running smoothly. A reprieve until the next inner monster raises its ugly head to send my inner child into another episode of fear. But we can handle what life throws at us; it’s all in the reflection of the past, to move through to the now. Read more about my inner child here
Inner child of mine
‘Inner child of mine you surprise me constantly
With your little whims of yester year
I in the now am content to explore the now and the future.
But you tag along looking over your shoulder
To not let the boogie man get you.
Oh little one how sorry I am
That I can’t cleanse or wash away your fears forever.
Alas we must work in unison
To bring forth the monsters in the chasm of your mind
For a better life for us both
To escape the wheel of incarnation and
Endless returns to this plane of existence.
So little one bring forth to me your fears and
Let me help you to find solace through my understanding
And let’s abolish all the monsters of your days.”
Many people say as they read my book, your life is similar to my life. A lot you experienced, I’ve experienced. We all live a life with many experiences. Experiences can be similar but not the same. This is what unites people through reading books. Even through a particular group our similarities in experiences, visions, perspectives etc. My experiences can give you some aha moments. And will bring in some of your own memories as you read my book.
Books are written to excite, intrigue, shape, and inspire and bring in awareness of how other people have lived. You may even find we are not too far removed from each other’s lives. Reading books can help the reader to understand their own life, to put another’s person’s perspective on an incident and how they coped or handled it can help a reader. The most important message is you’re not alone; other people experience similar issues.
Reading of other people’s life events can be helpful
It’s understanding human nature through other people life experiences. We can educate ourselves on life by reading books. This will help us to trigger something you may need to remember, or inspire us to do something we always wanted to do for our own self.
Maybe you wanted to write a book, you may want to travel and live overseas. You want to start a business or maybe you wanted to learn a new language or about new cultures. Books offer all those interesting ways of learning and living.
Books help us to understand behaviours.
Help us to learn a crafts, or language. Read a book and live in someone else’s shoes for a few days or a month, and then sit back and say, hmm, that book helped me… Read about families, read about trauma and circumstances and how people have not let those traumas and circumstances define them. If you were traumatized as a child, you could find the courage to speak up on your own trauma and pain. A book may help you to rise above your issue.
You have two choices
I had two choices; to suffer and be the victim, or see beauty in my world and rise above it. We all have choices in this world. And it’s up to us. Books can help us to understand life. Many of the experiences that you’ve experienced, other people have experienced too. And there’s something in that; when we feel oh, that person went through what I went through. Because we are a group society, other people’s experiences can be your experiences.
It is kind of like a feeling of, oh, these things happen to others. I’m not alone. And others did experience what I experienced and they move through it and forward. You may even realise oh! I’ve never looked at it that way. Maybe I can look at it through their point of view. And maybe I can learn and maybe I can move forward in my own dilemmas? By reading about other people’s experiences, we can change and grow as a person. So get a book, and read a book. Books hold great knowledge, solutions, ideas and new ways of thinking and doing. Books are wonderful.
If you have discovered something about yourself in a book, feel free to reach out for a free 15 minute consultation to discuss what this means to you.
